The one thing that my dad Always told me was 'stand alone' no matter who was doing what around me if it was wrong stand alone no matter what anyone said to me, no matter if everyone made fun of me or turned their back on me, don't give in and do the wrong thing stand alone. I tell my kids that now and also tell them 'you can never get in trouble for doing the right thing'
My dad left our home when I was just beginning high school and when he got sick with leukemia 17 years later, I was able to spend sometime with him and retrieve some moments lost. At the time he was sick I was in the droves of child rearing, had a 6 year old, almost 4 year old and 2 year old and as he watched me one evening ready to pull my hair out as I stuggled to get my son to put his toys away and as the irritation and frustration mounted because my oldest didn't understand why she couldn't wear her clothes to bed, he just looked at me kinda chuckled and said 'Choose your battles, what's gonna happen if the toys remain til morning, will Kristen survive if she sleeps in her shorts and t-shirt.'
That advice made me stop and think about how all these tiny little things were causing such a big reaction. I have tried to remember those words and at times when frustrated with situations, have used them to help me realize what little issues in the big picture most things are.
I would have to say the best advice my dad has ever given me is. . . . Treat people the way you want to be treated Live life the way you want to live it and Be who you want to be not what someone makes you out to be. . . . You treat people the same way you want to be treated and people will treat you with the respect you deserve. Dont let anyone tell you you cant do something if you want it go out and get it dont let anything stop you Be yourself and dont let anyone stand in your way. . . . i love my dad and hes treated me with the most respect ever!!! and i would love to treat him to a round of golf it would be my way of giving a little bit back at a time. . . .
My dad died unexpectedly when I was barely 5 yrs old so I didn't really know him. However, I was told he insisted on naming me Anna when I was born because "You never know where in the world you might end up, and Anna is a universally recognized name". As it turns out, I ended up in the USA after being born in Latvia and escaping with family in the dark of night and making our way south into Germany when I was less than a year old. We spent 5 years in a "displaced persons" camp in Germany while waiting for a sponsor in a new country. Our choices at the time were Australia; Argentina; and the US. I am very grateful that we ended up here. It's too bad my father never had a chance to come here with us.
My father always said do as I say not as I do. In other words do not follow his path, make your own path and follow it with pride knowing you have/had done your best. I've tried to instill this in my own children and grandchildren.
I'm not eligible to win - and the way I play golf, the fine folks at Diablo Grande would never let me near their course - but thought I'd answer anyway.
My dad's best advice: "Think it over carefully. Weigh both sides. Then do the right thing."
This is a longtime joke in our family - "do the right thing" being fairly useless as advice. If I knew what the right thing was, would I be asking for help?
He has other gems that have come in handy. "Maintain an even strain." This is a flying thing from "The Right Stuff" and it reminds me to keep from getting too worked up over little things so I can handle the larger issues. And - speaking of golf - "Closer to the hole; that's all that matters." This generally is the line I get after hitting a ball all of three feet. If you think about it, though, it works for almost any goal.
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Congrats to rock15, the winner of the Diablo Grande foursome!
The one thing that my dad Always told me was 'stand alone' no matter who was doing what around me if it was wrong stand alone no matter what anyone said to me, no matter if everyone made fun of me or turned their back on me, don't give in and do the wrong thing stand alone. I tell my kids that now and also tell them 'you can never get in trouble for doing the right thing'
My dad left our home when I was just beginning high school and when he got sick with leukemia 17 years later, I was able to spend sometime with him and retrieve some moments lost. At the time he was sick I was in the droves of child rearing, had a 6 year old, almost 4 year old and 2 year old and as he watched me one evening ready to pull my hair out as I stuggled to get my son to put his toys away and as the irritation and frustration mounted because my oldest didn't understand why she couldn't wear her clothes to bed, he just looked at me kinda chuckled and said 'Choose your battles, what's gonna happen if the toys remain til morning, will Kristen survive if she sleeps in her shorts and t-shirt.'
That advice made me stop and think about how all these tiny little things were causing such a big reaction. I have tried to remember those words and at times when frustrated with situations, have used them to help me realize what little issues in the big picture most things are.
My dad always said "If you conquer yourself you can conquer any challenge because no one can stop you but yourself."
I would have to say the best advice my dad has ever given me is. . . . Treat people the way you want to be treated Live life the way you want to live it and Be who you want to be not what someone makes you out to be. . . . You treat people the same way you want to be treated and people will treat you with the respect you deserve. Dont let anyone tell you you cant do something if you want it go out and get it dont let anything stop you Be yourself and dont let anyone stand in your way. . . . i love my dad and hes treated me with the most respect ever!!! and i would love to treat him to a round of golf it would be my way of giving a little bit back at a time. . . .
My dad died unexpectedly when I was barely 5 yrs old so I didn't really know him. However, I was told he insisted on naming me Anna when I was born because "You never know where in the world you might end up, and Anna is a universally recognized name". As it turns out, I ended up in the USA after being born in Latvia and escaping with family in the dark of night and making our way south into Germany when I was less than a year old. We spent 5 years in a "displaced persons" camp in Germany while waiting for a sponsor in a new country. Our choices at the time were Australia; Argentina; and the US. I am very grateful that we ended up here. It's too bad my father never had a chance to come here with us.
My father always said do as I say not as I do. In other words do not follow his path, make your own path and follow it with pride knowing you have/had done your best. I've tried to instill this in my own children and grandchildren.
I'm not eligible to win - and the way I play golf, the fine folks at Diablo Grande would never let me near their course - but thought I'd answer anyway.
My dad's best advice: "Think it over carefully. Weigh both sides. Then do the right thing."
This is a longtime joke in our family - "do the right thing" being fairly useless as advice. If I knew what the right thing was, would I be asking for help?
He has other gems that have come in handy. "Maintain an even strain." This is a flying thing from "The Right Stuff" and it reminds me to keep from getting too worked up over little things so I can handle the larger issues. And - speaking of golf - "Closer to the hole; that's all that matters." This generally is the line I get after hitting a ball all of three feet. If you think about it, though, it works for almost any goal.