I find myself worrying a lot about a bunch of things, many of them related to my kids. What is your biggest concern when it comes to raising your kids?
My biggest concern for my son is that he will resint us. My husband has had a stroke and cant really play, hug with two arms, throw in the air, chase him and pretty much everything a dad does. I am afraid that he will feel he missed out on all that. I do my best as a mom but he really wants dad to do more and he is only 2 so he does not understand why he does not get dad to fulfill his needs. I dont want him to think I did not do enough with him because we are stuck at home. I am my husbands caretaker and the both of them are alot of work so I do get tired alot. So getting out is sometimes nearly impossible.
Bless you, Jennifer. I can definitely see why you MIGHT worry about that, but I am sure that as your son gets older, and SURELY by the time he's grown, he'll have learned SUCH incredibly valuable lessons in compassion, devotion, patience and love from you. I am sure your son will ADMIRE you both, and not resent you for the things you worry about now..(taking away his car keys as punishment? maybe a little resentment there, ha ha!)
I think one of my biggest worries (besides the usual/daily stuff) is "How will my kids remember their childhood once they're grown?"
Are we "doing enough stuff" now as a family? (and I don't mean fancy/expensive vacations necessarily, but...Do we play enough Scrabble? Do we make pancakes for dinner often enough? Do we have enough "traditions" that they'll treasure when they're grown? Have I chaperoned enough of their field trips? Have they had enough sleepovers? etc). My big fear is that when I'm dead and gone, the kids will be at each others' houses for Thanksgiving and one will say "Remember how Mom never let us have anyone sleep over?" or "I wonder why we never had Family Game Night?" or "I wonder why Dad never took time off to chaperone our scout camping trips?" stuff like that.
But not just the 'fun stuff' either...Am I a GOOD homework helper? Do I support their curiosity in certain topics, while instilling in them the value of sticking WITH something--even if you're not so great at it. Am I raising quitters? Am I killing self-esteem?
I know once the kids are out of the house, they're not obligated to come back ha ha!! I want them to have loved growing up "mine" if that makes any sense!
I have a rotating set of fears, from the sudden-onset of meningitis to airplanes hitting the house. I think my biggest worry is that a person in a position of authority over my kids will hurt them in some way. Sharing custody of your children means they have a second life that you know nothing about.
i worry about how my son will think of his childhood as well...my child hood was preety crumby so i want my son to expess himself and have fun...so i join him when he watches his shows, dance, sing, and play with him alot...i want to be his best friend and his parent...i dont want to be so serious...like my hubby...my hubby is too realistic...so my son always pefers to hang out with me..my son have my personality but looks just like daddy...
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My biggest concern for my son is that he will resint us. My husband has had a stroke and cant really play, hug with two arms, throw in the air, chase him and pretty much everything a dad does. I am afraid that he will feel he missed out on all that. I do my best as a mom but he really wants dad to do more and he is only 2 so he does not understand why he does not get dad to fulfill his needs. I dont want him to think I did not do enough with him because we are stuck at home. I am my husbands caretaker and the both of them are alot of work so I do get tired alot. So getting out is sometimes nearly impossible.
Jennifer Landeros
www.youravon.com/jenniferfinley
Bless you, Jennifer. I can definitely see why you MIGHT worry about that, but I am sure that as your son gets older, and SURELY by the time he's grown, he'll have learned SUCH incredibly valuable lessons in compassion, devotion, patience and love from you. I am sure your son will ADMIRE you both, and not resent you for the things you worry about now..(taking away his car keys as punishment? maybe a little resentment there, ha ha!)
Take care :)
I think one of my biggest worries (besides the usual/daily stuff) is "How will my kids remember their childhood once they're grown?"
Are we "doing enough stuff" now as a family? (and I don't mean fancy/expensive vacations necessarily, but...Do we play enough Scrabble? Do we make pancakes for dinner often enough? Do we have enough "traditions" that they'll treasure when they're grown? Have I chaperoned enough of their field trips? Have they had enough sleepovers? etc). My big fear is that when I'm dead and gone, the kids will be at each others' houses for Thanksgiving and one will say "Remember how Mom never let us have anyone sleep over?" or "I wonder why we never had Family Game Night?" or "I wonder why Dad never took time off to chaperone our scout camping trips?" stuff like that.
But not just the 'fun stuff' either...Am I a GOOD homework helper? Do I support their curiosity in certain topics, while instilling in them the value of sticking WITH something--even if you're not so great at it. Am I raising quitters? Am I killing self-esteem?
I know once the kids are out of the house, they're not obligated to come back ha ha!! I want them to have loved growing up "mine" if that makes any sense!
I have a rotating set of fears, from the sudden-onset of meningitis to airplanes hitting the house. I think my biggest worry is that a person in a position of authority over my kids will hurt them in some way. Sharing custody of your children means they have a second life that you know nothing about.
Emily
i worry about how my son will think of his childhood as well...my child hood was preety crumby so i want my son to expess himself and have fun...so i join him when he watches his shows, dance, sing, and play with him alot...i want to be his best friend and his parent...i dont want to be so serious...like my hubby...my hubby is too realistic...so my son always pefers to hang out with me..my son have my personality but looks just like daddy...