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Surprised nobody has posted here
Losing a baby is very sad. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 12 weeks. At that time my doctor told me that 1 in 7 pregnancies ends in miscarriage.
I then went on to have three healthy full-term pregnancies. My first, a boy who is now 27, was purple at birth but then got the hang of the breathing thing (whew - what a relief!), the other two were fast and easy deliveries, and for that I am grateful :-)
My fifth pregnancy was my only "surprise" pregnancy and I was about 20 weeks along.
The feelings of loss and other accompanying emotions are difficult to discuss with others who have not had a miscarriage; I suspect that is why nobody has written anything in this forum until now.
There, I've broken the ice - anybody else want to chime in?
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You can count me in. I had two miscarriages and several surgeries before I had Nicholas in April. They are more common than I ever realized - I have several friends who have been through it. At the time, it was devastating. I don't think about it much, but I do occasionally wonder "what if." That said, I look at it this way: I had to go through that to get what I have now. God knew this was the baby for me at this time. And it made me so grateful - grateful to be nauseated, grateful to gain a bazillion pounds, grateful to be exhausted in the newborn days. Because I had started to think it would never happen.